Leaving the House

When you decide to get a divorce one of the two of you eventually have to leave the house.

This is a very difficult thing to do particularly if you are the one leaving and the divorce was not your choice.  If one of the parties will not voluntarily leave it is common that one of the two parties uses a domestic violence complaint and obtains a temporary restraining order (TRO) to have one party thrown out of the house just as a way to get the other party out.

While it may seem like a good idea at the time, it is strategically a very bad idea.

Having had this happen to me, I can tell you, when the police arrive at your door and tell you that you have 20 minutes to collect your things and leave it is a feeling I will never forget.  I was thrown out of the house at 2 in the morning.  My children were sleeping in the house and I had to get out with nowhere to go.  I would have gone to a women’s shelter but I was told that as I was supposedly the perpetrator of domestic violence that I would not be admitted. Enough about me….

While this may appear as a victory for the spouse remaining in the house, this is a very, very bad idea and unless you are really being harmed it is not worth the short term gain.

 The bitterness that results will make your divorce longer and more painful.

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