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GUEST BLOG - by Amy Collett from www.bizwell.org Valentine’s Day can be an enjoyable holiday for many people; it’s a day to let people know how you feel, to spend time with a significant other, to show your appreciation for the ones you care about. When you’re going...

With certainty, sometimes, your child will be too sick and not able to attend school or go to day care. Dealing with a sick child is never easy, but dealing with a sick child in a co-parenting situation  can be more difficult. Having an understanding (and clear...

GUEST BLOG - AMY COLLETT from www.bizwell.orH Getting divorced is one of the most stressful things you can experience. Although divorce is extremely exhausting and emotionally taxing on adults, it can be even harder on our kids. It’s easy for children to feel a sense...

Seek Out Support Divorce is a life-changing decision which will be  emotional, stressful, traumatic, and nerve-wracking.  The end of a marriage will  trigger sadness and despair irrespective of the reason for your divorce and these emotions can overwhelm you. Why does...

Being a divorce coach in NJ, I hear this question often, and there is never a good answer. First thing to consider is that divorce never feels “fair”.  A good settlement is when both parties are feeling like they did not get what they wanted. Each of you gave away...

The decision to keep the house is a big one.  The marital residence typically represents the majority of a family's assets so buying your spouse out can use a significant portion of your share of the money from the marriage.  If you consider keeping the house, you...

  When you are going through a divorce the hurt and sorrow can be overwhelming and can drown you.  One of the key things you can do is to forgive yourself for the failure of your marriage.  Even if, on the surface, you do not believe that you were the one to blow...

Divorce is tough, very tough. This is likely the hardest thing you have had to go through in your life.  Other events, while they may have been harder at the time, did not last for months, if you are lucky, or for years if you are not. Divorce touches every aspect of...

In my last post I explained what a divorce consultant does.  So why should you hire one?  Divorce is an expensive process on its own, why should you add another professional? A few questions you need to consider.  Are you talking to your lawyer about non legal issues...

It’s a new profession that assists you in your divorce to understand the decisions you are facing; help build a strategy for you and your loved ones; and prepare the evidence necessary to support your needs.  Divorce Consultants also help you understand your...

Irreconcilable differences is the term used in complaints for divorce in NJ as the reason for the divorce.  Basically states that the relationship has reached a stage of full break down and there is no reasonable hope that you can find a way to stay married. It is a...

I rarely publish outstanding results for my clients but this one was just awesome... I prepared a 5 year marital lifestyle analysis according to Case Information Statement  (NJ financial form) categories so that the judge would see the numbers in the standard way.  In...

What can you do when all the court decisions seem to be against you? Your judge just seems not to get it and decisions are decidedly favoring your soon-to-be-X. How can you change your strategy to get on the “right” side of the judge? If you are in this situation my...

I happened to watch two TED talks this morning, (Julia Galef – Why you think you’re right – even when you are wrong and Kathryn Schultz – On being wrong) that examined the fact that we all believe that we are right in our judgments and how we see the world. In other...

A few years ago I wrote a blog called “Time Kills Deals”.  The blog talked about how prolonged negotiations not only cost more money in legal fees but “time” itself can cause folks to get fixed in their own positions. I still believe that the best outcomes from a...